Am I doing the best I can?

“Sufficiency isn’t two steps up from poverty or one step short of abundance. It isn’t a measure of barely enough or more than enough. Sufficiency isn’t an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough.”
― Brene Brown.

“Less is more. Progress is made through precise, persistent, and purposeful pushes.”
― Scott Perry.

How much is too much and how less is too less?

These are just a few examples to express the core meaning of one of my favourite questions.

Am I doing the best I can?

It is a constant process of assessing the environment and this constant process of scanning wares you down more quickly than you think. It is a constant struggle to stay afloat and be a part of the society.

Unfortunately, nobody can survive in a bubble. At some point you have to get out and face the reality, but this comes at a cost that we all have to pay. In the end, it’s all coming back to the same question:

Am I doing the best I can?

Surviving isn’t the hardest part, but it is about the level of energy that we are investing into the world around us, hoping for a fair return. The older we get, the wiser we become and these lessons of life are continuously shaping our lives, triggering for change.

The inward and outward development is a painstakingly journey and we are often asking ourselves whether we are really doing the best that we can or not! It is about self-descovery and self-projection into the world!

But, there is a huge obstacle that we have to overcome – How well can we handle criticism?

We know that opinions coming from around us have a huge impact on us. They often come in the shape of a critic. It can be also the expression of a cruel truth that we keep under the rug and it is an excruciating experience when it is revealed to us by somebody else. It is very easy and handy to judge someone, just to deflect the attention from yourself.

I have driven my life around, for the past three years, looking constantly at my potential and my personal needs, in contrast with what society needs and with real life requirements. I still have to make a living – no question about that!

Being a lazy person and an introvert – I don’t need a whole lot, as far as money is concerned but, I do need an environment that allowes me to achieve fulfillment. This is a philisophical concept, very difficult to explain, that’s why I have resourced to my favourite question:

Am I doing the best I can?

Nowadays society’s criticism and pressure is taking a toll on us. Because everything is public, we have to be in a defensive position all the time and this is really hard when you are different from everybody else. No explanation is good enough. No justification is accepted. We just have to fight the collective animal which is called – the society.

But, the society is us, too. How can we fight ourselves?

There is no perfect solution, but a balanced position comes in handy! Not too cold, not too hot! This is difficult to hold on to, because we are exposed to the elements and we have to take shelter from criticism otherwise, we will be wiped out and the empty spot will be filled in with another pawn.

I owe gratitude to my friend Dan, who taught me the meaning of this great question that represents a pressure outlet to our personal battles. We’ve got to have critical thinking so we can navigate in the best possible manner through the waves of life. We’ve got to borrow at least a fraction of the sailor’s toughness and rouggedness, in order to be able to survive the storms of life.

Freedom is essential so we can have a good judgement!

Have a wonderful day!

1 Comment

  1. Thank you for your kind words Mircea! And you are right, I use to say to my kids and younger colleagues “If you do the best you can it’s good enough and you don’t have to be anxious about your accomplishments”.
    Fact is that you describe it better then I ever have even in my own mother tongue!
    Respectfully Dan


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